Do you ever…‘Fake it till you make it?’
I started my career in Accountancy feeling like the underdog.
My quiet nature, resistance to large groups and to asking questions (especially publicly) meant I was not standing out. After feeling overlooked for some time, I decided I need to try out the classic ‘Fake it…etc’ approach.
It worked. A little too well.
Suddenly, people noticed my skills and abilities. I started to feel accepted. At last my career started to reap the rewards. External validation ☑️
The message I received from the world was loud and clear:
Extroversion = 👍
Introversion = 👎
But the cost of this pretence was too great.
My fear of being rejected or overlooked meant I worked so hard to be the extrovert that I thought I needed to be that I forgot to embrace the introvert within.
After many years, something inside me snapped and I retreated inwards.
I spent some time getting REALLY clear about who I was and what I valued.
I’d had enough of striving to be something I thought I needed to be!
Then I did something really special… I invested in myself and my development.
I began to LOVE the real me.✨
In truth, I’m a multitude of things. I now have the self worth to accept and value all those parts. #coaching#freedom#confidence